This one: “Trans *”
Personally, my problems with the asterisk aren’t of a nature of “this excludes trans women!” or whatever. It doesn’t. Nor are they based in an ignorance of the issues of non-binary semantic inclusion.
My criticisms are principally of…
a) the relative worth or value of the…
can there please be some kind of online exchange where trans boys can give their old clothes to trans girls and vice versa? does that exist? if not am i allowed to start one because holy wow that would be the bomb diggety
can this happen
THERE IS ACTUALLY A BLOG FOR THIS NOW
and cis people can also donate clothes, because that gives people a bigger pool to get clothes from and it’s one of the ways that we can be active allies for our trans siblings
i can only buy clothes in the womens section of target because most of the times when i have gone into the mens section to look for clothes i have gotten laughed at by the men there or at least glared at and when i try to just grin and bear it and buy mens clothes (which i am most comfortable in even though i do not identify exclusively as male) i cant try them on bc im afraid to put myself in a situation where an employee is likely going to tell me “you know these are men’s clothes, right?” and i can only speak as a dfab person, trans women face an immensely higher risk when they go shopping in the womens section in public
and even aside from the fact that going shopping is such an anxiety inducing experience for many trans people, most trans kids arent going to have had a lifetime to build up a wardrobe that theyre comfortable with, because they will have been given a large amount of them to them by people who gender them incorrectly & in a way they are not comfortable with, and have likely purchased either masculine or feminine clothes for themselves due to the overwhelming pressure to conform to their designated gender. many trans people have to rebuild their wardrobe entirely from scratch.
this is why if youre cis and you are demanding to be given clothes from a clothes exchange for trans people u are a fucking hellmonster
Honestly tumblr kinda makes me hate people who are trans, not because I think anything is wrong with them but because people will literally say a joke and there will be 50 people on their page flipping shit about how they’re transphobic when it wasn’t even meant to offend them.
i know how you feel OP, tumblr makes me hate cis people, not because there’s anything wrong with them, but because they make whiny self centered posts about why they’re not allowed to hurt trans* people for fun
I want to talk to people who use gender-neutral pronouns besides they/them about why they chose the ones they chose and about feeling like choosing neutrals besides they/them is an imposition or asking too much
Reblogging cause I’m still interested in talking to people about this. Also it was pointed out to me that my initial phrasing might have been unclear—my question is: for those of you who use, for yourselves, pronouns that are NOT he or she or they, what led you to choose the set you use (just cause I’m curious and it’s interesting), and, have you struggled with feeling like it is an imposition to ask people to use your pronouns, basically has the “changing how I talk is too haaard” mindset created an anxiety for you even if you think it’s BS, is that normal, inform and soothe me plz
4342) When I was a kid, I didn’t quite know why “heshe” hurt me more than other insuls, but it did. Then when I got to middle school and learned that hermaphroditism was a real thing, I could barely contain my glee but I didn’t understand that either. Years later, after I had realized my trans* status, I had a rather intense moment of “oh. duh.”
Humans can’t be hermaphroditic, they would need both fully functions sexual organs of either sex.
Humans can be intersex, which means they have ambiguous genitalia.
It is actually possible for a human to have both ovarian and testicular gonadal tissues, and thus fulfill the scientific definition of hermaphroditism (it’s hard to functionally define “fully functional” and it’s not a requirement), but it’s incredibly rare.
That said, “hermaphrodite” applied to human beings is almost always both scientifically inaccurate and offensive. Like any other slur, people to whom it is applied might choose to reclaim it, but if it’s not being used against you, you don’t get to make the call.
Intersex conditions can result in ambiguous or “atypical” genitalia (one example of genitals that are considered atypical but not ambiguous would be what is considered a “micropenis,” that is, a penis that cannot be stretched to one inch in length at birth). It’s important to recognize, however, that intersex people can also be born with genitalia that are considered completely “typical.”
One example of this would be “complete” Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (AIS), where a newborn is assigned female based on observed genitalia at birth, but has XY chromosomes and internal testes rather than ovaries. This is typically diagnosed when a female-assigned person reaches an advanced age without menstruating, or in some cases, when treatment is sought for infertility. Most people with complete AIS also self-identify as women.
Basically, biological sex is super complicated and definitely NOT limited to “two sexes” (which I know thatcrazytransgirl knows), and while I want people to learn accurate and not hurtful terminology, I’m honestly pretty happy just to hear that more people are becoming aware of this relatively early in life.
If you say the word cis ever around me I will most likely stab you directly in the throat
Aww because you dont get to feel “normal” and better than trans people?
No, because equality can never happen as long as you’re separating yourself from others. You’re not genderqueer, you’re a human. You’re not white. You’re a human. You’re not male, and you’re not female, you’re a human. Maybe once people start realizing we’re all humans, we can stop this perpetual circle of hatred toward one another.
Actually, equality can never happen as long as we conceive of “human” as a singular and narrow thing. The state of affairs that inevitably results when we stop talking about the different categories of humanity is that the most common groups within humanity become even more dominant and more entrenched as the default.
Everybody in this society has to know a lot about cis folk, because we’re surrounded by them. Cis folk have the luxury of not having to learn anything about trans folk, because we’re outnumbered enough that we can easily become completely invisible. Saying “nobody talk about anyone being cis or trans” has the same impact as saying “nobody talk about anyone being trans”.
Is that equality to you? It sounds like the opposite of it to me.
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I am not on board with arguing that non-monosexual people ID as something other than bi “mainly” because they’re forced to. I think the constant insistence of non-bi people on a definition of bisexuality that most actual bi people don’t agree with is a factor for some people in not ID’ing as bi, but ultimately it’s none of my damn business why a person IDs the way they do, if the label they choose makes the most sense to them.
At the same time, as previously noted, I do hear this particular anti-bi stereotype—“You only like two genders/You only like men and women/You obviously care deeply about genitals”—more from pan-identified people than from LG-identified people (or trans* people, for that matter).
I DON’T think this is all pan people, or solely something that pan people do. LG people say plenty of hurtful shit to and about bi people; it’s just mainly centered on their belief that we don’t exist, but sometimes the “you’re so binary” shit gets thrown in for some variety.
There are a LOT of people who are specifically biased against/terrified of non-monosexuality, and pan people and bi people get plenty of the same non-monosexual negative stereotypes applied to us by both straight and LG people. But just as biphobia from the queer community often hits us harder than when it comes from straight people, biphobia from other non-monosexuals is, to me, particularly painful.
Also, the red equality symbol people are posting everywhere as their profile pictures and such is a symbol for the Human Rights Campaign which has historically completely disregarded trans* people and trans* rights, among other shitty things.
Yeah, your ~liberal~ equality symbol might be doing good for some, but it has also harmed many others.