“no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

painkillerscoffeeandcathair:

steviemcfly:

holykittens:

that’s bullshit and people need to stop saying it.

That phrase is the adult version of, “Why are you hitting yourself?”

Seriously? You think Eleanor Roosevelt is full of shit?

What she’s saying is that people can treat you like you don’t matter, but they are wrong. YOU know you matter, and that’s what is important. What people think of you means nothing unless you let it get to you. Folks don’t like you? That’s not your problem unless you let it.

“That’s not your problem unless you let it” is victim-blaming bullshit.

Members of the dominant group can make laws and traditions that define you as lesser, if they let you be human at all. They can gaslight you into hating yourself, into hating people like you, into helping fuck over those people because of the characteristics you share.

Eleanor Roosevelt was an upper-class White woman. On this subject, she was indeed full of shit.

"Black women wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see Black women. White women wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see women. White men wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and see human beings."

— Michelle Haimoff, on privilege (via jatigi)

(Source: homoarigato, via aragingquiet)

"

A gay elite has hijacked queer struggle and positioned their desires as everyone else’s needs— the dominant signs of straight conformity have become the ultimate measures of gay success. Even when the gay rights agenda does include important issues, it does it in a way that consistently prioritizes the most privileged while fucking over everyone else.

I’m using the term “gay rights”, instead of the more popular term of the moment “LGBT rights”, because “LGBT” usually means gay, with lesbian in parentheses, throw out the bisexuals, and put trans on for a little window-dressing. Don’t even think about queers who don’t fit neatly into one of the prevailing categories!

"

— ‘That’s Revolting!’ book (via fuckyeahhardfemme)

(via a-mead-gal)

"White people’s #1 freedom, is the freedom to be totally ignorant about those who are other than white. We don’t have to learn about those who are other than white. Our #2 freedom is the freedom to deny that we’re ignorant."

— Jane Elliot  (via slimmcharles)

(Source: youtube.com, via anniedragon)

zoramagia:

Gay White Men who call themselves “Sassy Black Women” should have their privileged, racist balls clamped by a nutcracker. 

(Source: morenamagia, via tranqualizer)

stfuconservatives:

rubyvroom:

the whole article is really just.. ugh.

  • Sexism is institutionalized at birth. As Asher Bauer explains in “Not Your Mom’s Trans 101,” “Let’s start at the beginning. A baby is born. The doctor says ‘It’s a boy’ or ‘It’s a girl’ based on the appearance of the child’s genitals. […] the child is then raised as whatever arbitrary gender the doctor saw fit to assign.” On the one hand, this is often the setup for trans identification later in life, with the individual realizing that her gender doesn’t match up with her biological sex (as designated by the doctor and social conventions that elide sex and gender). On the other hand, some argue that girls face sexism from birth while boys, even if they later identify as women, do not, signifying a fundamental difference in terms of privilege and upbringing between cisgender and trans women.
  • Gender is socially constructed. Expounding on an idea most famously discussed by Simone de Beauvoir in The Second SexLaurie Penny writes“Not a single person on this planet is born a woman. Becoming a woman, for those who willingly or unwillingly undertake the process, is torturous, magical, bewildering–and intensely political.” Trans women have to function in the same patriarchal culture cisgender women do, so it’s not a huge leap to say that all women can stand together against inequality. However, even the term “cisgender” is a contentious one, as it suggests ciswomen have privileges (by “being able to” conform to the sex/gender binary) that transwomen do not. According to Miska, “cisgender privilege” is a fundamental misnomer because “we do not have gender privilege to begin with.”
wait wait I think you must have made a series of really unfortunate errors here because it sounds like you’re suggesting that transwomen are more privileged than ciswomen. And you didn’t mean to say that, right? right? right?

“According to Miska, “cisgender privilege” is a fundamental misnomer because “we do not have gender privilege to begin with.”

No… no. OK just off the top of my head, here are some privileges I have as a cis woman over some trans* women:

  • No body dysphoria regarding my secondary sexual characteristics (genitalia, breasts)
  • No one ever questions me when I walk into a women’s bathroom or dressing room
  • No one has ever questioned whether I’m a “real” woman
  • As a straight woman, I am free to marry a cisgender man in any state in the US
  • No one in my family has ever questioned my gender identity

And the list goes on and on. And being a woman does have some gender privileges. Men have WAY MORE of them, but we have some.

What is with the mainstream feminism transfails going on today???

-Jess

Emi Koyama addressed the first point in her article “Whose Feminism is it Anyway?The Unspoken Racism of the Trans Inclusion Debate,” publicly available in PDF form here: http://eminism.org/readings/pdf-rdg/whose-feminism.pdf

Basically, her main point is that it is ALREADY a White middle-class woman’s privileged fantasy that all women share some “common experience.”  If you want to kick trans* women out of the movement, then you’d better be ready to send all the middle-class White women, who have a shit ton of privilege that low-income women of color do not, with them.

(And yes, of course cisgender privilege is a thing.  Let’s start with “I am way less likely to be murdered because someone doesn’t think my genitals look right.”)

(via alexandraerin)

I got thoughts and feelings right now

genderbitch:

lucypaw:

genderbitch:

As I’m watching youarenotyou’s (super appreciated, btw) call for help for the trans chicks getting attacked by radscums build notes quickly and cis people actually paying attention.

And I’m remembering when we were under attack the last time and all of our calls for help, from like 12 different trans women, went ignored. Blogged and liked only by other trans women and some trans guys and nonbinary folks. And those same people helped us fight off the radscums. But no cis people.

That cis people only notice when it isn’t us calling them out but agender or fluid gender (or other nonbinary type) trans people or (especially) trans guys calling them out for leaving us high and dry when their own are targeting us.

That more often than not we can fight and fight and scream for help and cis people will stay quiet as shit but if a trans person who isn’t a trans woman calls them out they start flooding in, asking what they can do and how they can help.

Watching Raven have to single handedly take down a radscum by finding her personal blog cuz I and several other trans women got triggered out of function and no cis people fucking anywhere did anything.

Seeing the giant reblog lines created when these fuckers come after us and we tear them apart but they don’t care cuz in the end it’s about draining us, hurting us, pushing us down. Still no cis people.

I get compared to MRAs and misgendered. No cis people.

A pile of radscums come in after Raven cuz she actually was successful in one take down. And still. Where the fuck were the cis people then?

But someone else speaks up. Someone who isn’t a trans woman.

And the flood of aid starts.

I got a lot of feelings now. A lot of thoughts and feelings about this.

Yeah, I have a lot of complex feelings and thoughts about this.  Although I will say as a non-binary trans femme person, I am often seen as a trans woman and treated the same way.

Yeah most nonbinary folks who are perceived as trans women (especially the dmab ones) get thrown into the pit with the rest of us.

Which is really telling, isn’t it, about how cis minds work.

(via so-treu)

sugaredvenom:

zoedangerawesome:

While I was certainly every angry and upfront in my Dear Skinny People rant I fail to see that I was skinny shamming.

I did not say that skinny bodies are lesser bodies. I did not say that skinny bodies are disgusting bodies. I did not say that skinny bodies don’t deserve love.  I did not say that skinny people should gain weight. I did not gloat about the fact I could fit into clothes they couldn’t.

I said skinny people should stop complaining about lack of availability of clothing in their size. (And I don’t consider inbetweenies skinny. My mom is one, I know you have a hard time finding clothes.)

I don’t need to finish off every fat rant with, “oh, but skinny people are nice too.” We are told that skinny bodies are the ideal bodies every fucking day.

Thin people never allow fat people any space to complain. Every time we vent we’re accused of body-shaming or some other shit to silence us.

(Source: abigailxhobbs)

sexxxisbeautiful:

quazimottoonwax:

Million Hoodie March for Trayvon Martin. Union Square NYC.
Photo by J. Quazi King
http://quazimottoonwax.tumblr.com/
-Please do not REMOVE credits when rebloggin, THANKS!

filed under: how to use your privilege to point out injustice.

sexxxisbeautiful:

quazimottoonwax:

Million Hoodie March for Trayvon Martin. Union Square NYC.

Photo by J. Quazi King

http://quazimottoonwax.tumblr.com/

-Please do not REMOVE credits when rebloggin, THANKS!

filed under: how to use your privilege to point out injustice.

(via maishaparadox)

New Rule

liquornspice:

You will describe all direct harmful actions or damaging negligence with the appropriate -ist words.  Especially the word racist.

Example 1:

“I never thought about how band-aids were made to match the skin of people like me!”

Privileged.

Person overlooks a thing because they are privileged and don’t have to think about it.  You may call the above statement privileged in this instance. Although if you called it racist, you would not be wrong.

Example 2:

“I never thought that the Black babies I care for would need protection from the sun as well.”

Racist.  (also true story from when my sister worked at a daycare.)

Person neglects to think of the Black children as people and assumed their skin makes them a different species and, thus, puts them in danger by not protecting them from the elements.  If you used the word “privileged” in this instance, I would say KBURD and give you this face:

You don’t want to get that face. You will loathe yourself from deep within if I gave you that face.

Err on the side of not minimizing racist harm.

(Source: blackraincloud)

knitmeapony:

eshusplayground:

Wonders never cease.

… huh.

ideasandopinions:

Colorblind Ideology is a Form of Racism
What is racial colorblindness?
Racial issues are often uncomfortable to discuss and rife with stress and controversy. Many ideas have been advanced to address this sore spot in the American psyche. Currently, the most pervasive approach is known as colorblindness. Colorblindness is the racial ideology that posits the best way to end discrimination is by treating individuals as equally as possible, without regard to race, culture, or ethnicity.
At its face value, colorblindness seems like a good thing — really taking MLK seriously on his call to judge people on the content of their character rather than the color of their skin. It focuses on commonalities between people, such as their shared humanity.
However, colorblindness alone is not sufficient to heal racial wounds on a national or personal level. It is only a half-measure that in the end operates as a form of racism.
Problems with the colorblind approach
Racism? Strong words, yes, but let’s look the issue straight in its partially unseeing eye. In a colorblind society, White people, who are unlikely to experience disadvantages due to race, can effectively ignore racism in American life, justify the current social order, and feel more comfortable with their relatively privileged standing in society (Fryberg, 2010). Most minorities, however, who regularly encounter difficulties due to race, experience colorblind ideologies quite differently. Colorblindness creates a society that denies their negative racial experiences, rejects their cultural heritage, and invalidates their unique perspectives.
Let’s break it down into simple terms: Color-Blind = “People of color — we don’t see you (at least not that bad ‘colored’ part).” As a person of color, I like who I am, and I don’t want any aspect of that to be unseen or invisible. The need for colorblindness implies there is something shameful about the way God made me and the culture I was born into that we shouldn’t talk about. Thus, colorblindness has helped make race into a taboo topic that polite people cannot openly discuss. And if you can’t talk about it, you can’t understand it, much less fix the racial problems that plague our society.
Colorblindness is not the answer
Many Americans view colorblindness as helpful to people of color by asserting that race does not matter (Tarca, 2005). But in America, most underrepresented minorities will explain that race does matter, as it affects opportunities, perceptions, income, and so much more. When race-related problems arise, colorblindness tends to individualize conflicts and shortcomings, rather than examining the larger picture with cultural differences, stereotypes, and values placed into context. Instead of resulting from an enlightened (albeit well-meaning) position, colorblindness comes from a lack of awareness of racial privilege conferred by Whiteness (Tarca, 2005). White people can guiltlessly subscribe to colorblindness because they are usually unaware of how race affects people of color and American society as a whole.
Colorblindness in a psychotherapeutic relationship
How might colorblindness cause harm? Here’s an example close to home for those of you who are psychologically-minded. In the not-so-distant past, in psychotherapy a client’s racial and ethnic remarks were viewed as a defensive shift away from important issues, and the therapist tended to interpret this as resistance (Comas-Diaz & Jacobsen, 1991). However, such an approach hinders the exploration of conflicts related to race, ethnicity, and culture. The therapist doesn’t see the whole picture, and the client is left frustrated.
A colorblind approach effectively does the same thing. Blind means not being able to see things. I don’t want to be blind. I want to see things clearly, even if they make me uncomfortable. As a therapist I need to be able to hear and “see” everything my client is communicating on many different levels. I can’t afford to be blind to anything. Would you want to see a surgeon who operated blindfolded? Of course not. Likewise, a therapist should not be blinded either, especially to something as critical as a person’s culture or racial identity. By encouraging the exploration of racial and cultural concepts, the therapist can provide a more authentic opportunity to understand and resolve the client’s problems (Comas-Diaz & Jacobsen, 1991).
Nonetheless, I have encountered many fellow therapists who ascribe to a colorblind philosophy. They ignore race or pretend its personal, social, and historical effects don’t exist. This approach ignores the incredibly salient experience of being stigmatized by society and represents an empathetic failure on the part of the therapist. Colorblindness does not foster equality or respect; it merely relieves the therapist of his or her obligation to address important racial differences and difficulties.
Multiculturalism is better than blindness
Research has shown that hearing colorblind messages predict negative outcomes among Whites, such as greater racial bias and negative affect; likewise colorblind messages cause stress in ethnic minorities, resulting in decreased cognitive performance (Holoien et al., 2011). Given how much is at stake, we can no longer afford to be blind. It’s time for change and growth. It’s time to see.
The alternative to colorblindness is multiculturalism, an ideology that acknowledges, highlights, and celebrates ethnoracial differences. It recognizes that each tradition has something valuable to offer. It is not afraid to see how others have suffered as a result of racial conflict or differences.
So, how do we become multicultural? The following suggestions would make a good start (McCabe, 2011):
Recognizing and valuing differences,
Teaching and learning about differences, and
Fostering personal friendships and organizational alliances
Moving from colorblindness to multiculturalism is a process of change, and change is never easy, but we can’t afford to stay the same.
References
Comas-Diaz, L., and Jacobsen, F. M. (1991). Clinical Ethnocultural Transference and Countertransference in the Therapeutic Dyad. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 61(3), 392-402.
Fryberg, S. M. (2010). When the World Is Colorblind, American Indians Are Invisible: A Diversity Science Approach. Psychological Inquiry, 21(2), 115-119.
Holoien, D. S., and Shelton, J. N. (October 2011). You deplete me: The cognitive costs of colorblindness on ethnic minorities. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 10.1016/j.jesp.2011.09.010.
Tarca, K. (2005). Colorblind in Control: The Risks of Resisting Difference Amid Demographic Change. Educational Studies, 38(2), 99-120.
McCabe, J. (2011). Doing Multiculturalism: An Interactionist Analysis of the Practices of a Multicultural Sorority. Journal of Contemporary Ethnography, 40 (5), 521-549.

ideasandopinions:

Colorblind Ideology is a Form of Racism

What is racial colorblindness?

Racial issues are often uncomfortable to discuss and rife with stress and controversy. Many ideas have been advanced to address this sore spot in the American psyche. Currently, the most pervasive approach is known as colorblindness. Colorblindness is the racial ideology that posits the best way to end discrimination is by treating individuals as equally as possible, without regard to race, culture, or ethnicity.

At its face value, colorblindness seems like a good thing — really taking MLK seriously on his call to judge people on the content of their character rather than the color of their skin. It focuses on commonalities between people, such as their shared humanity.

However, colorblindness alone is not sufficient to heal racial wounds on a national or personal level. It is only a half-measure that in the end operates as a form of racism.

Problems with the colorblind approach

Racism? Strong words, yes, but let’s look the issue straight in its partially unseeing eye. In a colorblind society, White people, who are unlikely to experience disadvantages due to race, can effectively ignore racism in American life, justify the current social order, and feel more comfortable with their relatively privileged standing in society (Fryberg, 2010). Most minorities, however, who regularly encounter difficulties due to race, experience colorblind ideologies quite differently. Colorblindness creates a society that denies their negative racial experiences, rejects their cultural heritage, and invalidates their unique perspectives.

Let’s break it down into simple terms: Color-Blind = “People of color — we don’t see you (at least not that bad ‘colored’ part).” As a person of color, I like who I am, and I don’t want any aspect of that to be unseen or invisible. The need for colorblindness implies there is something shameful about the way God made me and the culture I was born into that we shouldn’t talk about. Thus, colorblindness has helped make race into a taboo topic that polite people cannot openly discuss. And if you can’t talk about it, you can’t understand it, much less fix the racial problems that plague our society.

Colorblindness is not the answer

Many Americans view colorblindness as helpful to people of color by asserting that race does not matter (Tarca, 2005). But in America, most underrepresented minorities will explain that race does matter, as it affects opportunities, perceptions, income, and so much more. When race-related problems arise, colorblindness tends to individualize conflicts and shortcomings, rather than examining the larger picture with cultural differences, stereotypes, and values placed into context. Instead of resulting from an enlightened (albeit well-meaning) position, colorblindness comes from a lack of awareness of racial privilege conferred by Whiteness (Tarca, 2005). White people can guiltlessly subscribe to colorblindness because they are usually unaware of how race affects people of color and American society as a whole.

Colorblindness in a psychotherapeutic relationship

How might colorblindness cause harm? Here’s an example close to home for those of you who are psychologically-minded. In the not-so-distant past, in psychotherapy a client’s racial and ethnic remarks were viewed as a defensive shift away from important issues, and the therapist tended to interpret this as resistance (Comas-Diaz & Jacobsen, 1991). However, such an approach hinders the exploration of conflicts related to race, ethnicity, and culture. The therapist doesn’t see the whole picture, and the client is left frustrated.

A colorblind approach effectively does the same thing. Blind means not being able to see things. I don’t want to be blind. I want to see things clearly, even if they make me uncomfortable. As a therapist I need to be able to hear and “see” everything my client is communicating on many different levels. I can’t afford to be blind to anything. Would you want to see a surgeon who operated blindfolded? Of course not. Likewise, a therapist should not be blinded either, especially to something as critical as a person’s culture or racial identity. By encouraging the exploration of racial and cultural concepts, the therapist can provide a more authentic opportunity to understand and resolve the client’s problems (Comas-Diaz & Jacobsen, 1991).

Nonetheless, I have encountered many fellow therapists who ascribe to a colorblind philosophy. They ignore race or pretend its personal, social, and historical effects don’t exist. This approach ignores the incredibly salient experience of being stigmatized by society and represents an empathetic failure on the part of the therapist. Colorblindness does not foster equality or respect; it merely relieves the therapist of his or her obligation to address important racial differences and difficulties.

Multiculturalism is better than blindness

Research has shown that hearing colorblind messages predict negative outcomes among Whites, such as greater racial bias and negative affect; likewise colorblind messages cause stress in ethnic minorities, resulting in decreased cognitive performance (Holoien et al., 2011). Given how much is at stake, we can no longer afford to be blind. It’s time for change and growth. It’s time to see.

The alternative to colorblindness is multiculturalism, an ideology that acknowledges, highlights, and celebrates ethnoracial differences. It recognizes that each tradition has something valuable to offer. It is not afraid to see how others have suffered as a result of racial conflict or differences.

So, how do we become multicultural? The following suggestions would make a good start (McCabe, 2011):

  1. Recognizing and valuing differences,
  2. Teaching and learning about differences, and
  3. Fostering personal friendships and organizational alliances

Moving from colorblindness to multiculturalism is a process of change, and change is never easy, but we can’t afford to stay the same.

References

Comas-Diaz, L., and Jacobsen, F. M. (1991). Clinical Ethnocultural Transference and Countertransference in the Therapeutic Dyad. American Journal of Orthopsychiatry, 61(3), 392-402.

Fryberg, S. M. (2010). When the World Is Colorblind, American Indians Are Invisible: A Diversity Science Approach. Psychological Inquiry, 21(2), 115-119.

Holoien, D. S., and Shelton, J. N. (October 2011). You deplete me: The cognitive costs of colorblindness on ethnic minorities. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 10.1016/j.jesp.2011.09.010.

Tarca, K. (2005). Colorblind in Control: The Risks of Resisting Difference Amid Demographic Change. Educational Studies, 38(2), 99-120.

McCabe, J. (2011). Doing Multiculturalism: An Interactionist Analysis of the Practices of a Multicultural Sorority. Journal of Contemporary Ethnography, 40 (5), 521-549.

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This profile was written by my old friend Channing!

(Source: yoisthisracist)

"Women of today are still being called upon to stretch across the gap of male ignorance and to educate men as to our existence and our needs. This is an old and primary tool of all oppressors to keep the oppressed occupied with the master’s concerns. Now we hear that it is the task of women of Color to educate white women—in the face of tremendous resistance—as to our existence, our differences, our relative roles in our joint survival. This is a diversion of energies and a tragic repetition of racist patriarchal thought."

The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House, by Audre Lorde (1979)

(Source: manifestfreedom, via kiriamaya)

so-treu:

COLOUR-BLIND RACISM: The Four Frames

darkjez:

ABAGOND

“Eduardo Bonilla-Silva asked samples of White Americans, most of them born between 1940 and 1980, questions about race issues. He noticed that at least half of them used each of the following four frames:

  1. abstract liberalism – the key word here is “abstract”. Unlike Jim Crow racists, most whites now agree that all Americans, regardless of race, should have equal rights and equal opportunities. But it is just lip service. When asked about government policies that could bring about such equality, like affirmative action or busing, most whites will find one reason or another to oppose them and fail to offer any other solid measure. Freedom, democracy and equality are not things to be achieved but just empty words to dress up the way things are in America – and to dress up the racism of white people.
  2. minimization of racism – Most whites believe there is still discrimination against blacks, but it is not as bad as it used to be and it is no longer the main thing holding blacks back. Instead it is their culture:
  3. cultural racism – Unlike Jim Crow racists, most whites no longer believe that there is anything wrong with blacks biologically. Instead it is cultural: mostly bad families, bad values and a bad work ethic. Blaming the victim. Some note that blacks use racism as an excuse and expect handouts.
  4. naturalization of racism – racist practices in society, like highly segregated schools and neighbourhoods and low rates of interracial marriage, are seen as “natural”, as a part of human nature – not as the outcome of white racism. That means it is no one’s fault, that there is little that can be done to change it.

The frames are mixed and matched as required by the argument at hand. The frames help to support each other. For example, minimizing racism makes an abstract liberalism seem more acceptable. The frames can be used in a straightforward way (“Blacks are lazy”) or more subtly (“It is hard being a single mother”).

Whites think they are a better judge of racism than blacks, particularly since blacks tend to imagine racism when it is not there.

The truth is blacks imagine little. Discrimination in hiring, housing and education has been well documented. The government should take forceful action to end it as it goes against the American value of equal opportunity for all regardless of race.

Yet almost no white person talks like that. Instead they use the frames to avoid saying anything like that. At best they will admit to discrimination but then discount its effects. Or they will say they believe in equality of opportunity but then find reasons to oppose any policy with the teeth to achieve it.”